
I write reviews for books I read/listen to for a few reasons. First,
and foremost, I am always frustrated when I read/listen to an interesting
book, get an opinion or learn something new, and within a few months
forget it all. Putting a review on my blog lets me remeber what I was
thinking at the time. Secondly, I suppose my reviews could be useful
for someone reading or consider reading a book that I've finished.
Though, to my knowledge, this has never happened.
Why do I mention this? Because I just finished a book, and I'm not sure
I have anything to report. But I'm going to try anyway.
The book is a single tape on how to start a conversation. This is your
basic advice, ranging from smiling and making eye contact, to making
sure you let the other person get a word in edgewise.
The first example is the author showing how to talk to a girl at a
sports club. Yes, he ends up getting a date. Though the rest of the
book is pretty plain.
One interesting suggestion for starting a conversation is to start with
a comment, followed by an easy to answer question.
Something like: 'I saw your blog today, how cool! Why did you decide to
start blogging?'
Not a bad formula, I guess.
The author also makes it clear that you have to use smalltalk as a
device to learn enough information, so you can have a real
conversation. So, during smalltalk, listen to clues about what you can
really talk about.
If you've never heard any formal advice on starting conversations, I
guess this would be a painless place to start.
Now look at that, will you? I guess I did learn something after all!
Total score: 4/10 - it does no harm, and is short.
--Ben